Info

The Journey Principles Podcast

It is our hope that the Journey Principles Podcast will help you grow and lead you toward the life you want with amazing guests, easy to apply practical principles, and personal motivation. Stephen shares from his knowledge, his experiences, and most of all, his heart! He knows all about suffering and bears witness to how amazing life can be when we choose to take a stand and apply principles that matter. Many of these are the same principles that transcended him from being virtually homeless and ready to take his life to becoming a respected and successful business owner. In a very transparent way, Stephen and his guests will walk you through the principles they have adopted into their lives and use daily. They will teach you how to transform from who you think you are today to becoming who you’re meant to be! It does not matter what kind of setbacks you have experienced so far. Stephen and his guests share from their personal, real-life journeys in order to empower you, the listener.
RSS Feed Subscribe in iTunes
2016
December
November
October
September
August
July
June
May
April
March
February


Categories

All Episodes
Archives
Categories
Now displaying: Category: overcoming obstacles
Nov 21, 2016

Front Row Experience with Jon Vroman:

Welcome back JP Family! Today we have a truly amazing show for you. Jon Vroman is spending some time with us and inspiring everyone to live life in the front row. Jon is a motivational speaker, author, social entrepreneur, personal coach, and the co-founder of the Front Row Foundation. He feels that you can enjoy life much better if you are living it in the front row.

Their organization, The Front Row Foundation, has a mission to help those braving critical health challenges. Their dream is to provide “a Front Row experience that will allow individuals to set aside any physical or emotional challenges while they celebrate the beauty and emotional energy of life.” Jon shares some great advice to anyone wanting to gain the most out of life and live it in the front row.

In today’s episode you will learn more about the following:

* Living in the front row.

* Critical questions to ask yourself.

* “When your why has heart, your how gets legs.”

* 3 steps to live a front row life.

* Mindset, relationships and environment.

We are confident that you will gain as much inspiration from Jon as our team has. Check out more about the Front Row Foundation at www.frontrowfoundation.org.

Stay connected with the Journey Principles through our website www.journeyprinciples.com. Be sure to follow us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and snapchat. As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Nov 14, 2016

Sea Stories with Michael Penney:

Good morning JP Family! It is always great to spend more time with you. Today we have a great guy joining us, Michael Penney. He is a Marine Corp combat veteran and an entrepreneur. He is the host of a hit podcast “Cigars and Sea Stories”. His passion is helping veterans grow and build businesses through Bunker Labs in Raleigh, NC.

Michael grew up in the middle of Michigan. He learned the importance of teamwork while being on the hockey and wrestling teams. Right out of high school he went straight into the Marine Corp boot camp; he has always wanted to be in the Marine Corp infantry. He learned many things along his journey that he uses to help fellow veterans today. Tune in to hear more about his the story that inspires so many!

In today’s episode you will learn more about the following:

  • Adding value
  • Get your merry-go-round spinning in the right direction
  • “Cigars and Sea Stories”
  • The value of sea stories
  • Bunker labs
  • Maintaining disciple
  • Business plan creator

We truly hope you gained as much inspiration and encouragement as we did. Michael Penney definitely knows how to add value to every situation he finds himself in. Be sure to visit his website, www.cigarsandseastories.com, to have access to his free source, Business Plan Creator. You can find more information on Bunker Labs at www.bunkerlabs.org. Also follow Michael Penney through Facebook and Twitter.

Stay connected with The Journey Principles through our website, www.journeyprinciples.com. There are some really great resources coming out very soon that you will want to check out. Follow us on social media to stay connected as well. You can find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles.

Nov 7, 2016

The Wildwood Wonder Woman with Delayne Hebert:

Welcome back to the Journey Principles! Our goal is to inspire your mind and motivate your heart. We have someone with us today that will do just that. She is such an inspiration! At the age of 21, she has faced and overcame more adversities than most people her age. We like to call her the “Wildwood Wonder Woman” a.k.a. Delayne Hebert.

Delayne grew up in a small town of Iowa where her family was known for drug and alcohol abuse. In 2001 a guidance counselor recommended a new summer camp for her and her brother to attend, Wildwood Hills Ranch. Delayne would have to wait until 2003, when she was 8 years old, to attend the summer camp. When she did, it was truly life changing for her! She has learned to turn all the negatives in her life into positive, inspiring things.

Now she is focusing on helping children who are in the same situations that she found herself in throughout her childhood. Tune in to hear her amazing story and how she was able to overcome all these obstacles that were placed in her way.

In today’s episode you will learn more about the following:

* The power of 1 choice.

* Importance of having personal time.

* Your past does not define your future.

* 3 steps to help someone going through the same struggles as Delayne faced in her childhood.

We hope you are able to gain as much inspiration from Delayne as we were. To learn more about Wildwood Hills Ranch, visit their website at www.wildwoodhillsranch.org. This is such an amazing camp for children. It is focused towards at-risk children, such as Delayne and her brother, and by the age of 12 they are teaching them leadership skills. You can also follow Delayne on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

Please share this episode and others with those who need it most. Stay connected with us on our website, www.journeyprinciples.com, and through social media. You can find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and even Snapchat. As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles.

Oct 17, 2016

Everyone Struggles with Michael Garner:

Happy Monday JP Family! We have one of our Journey Principles coaches with us today, Michael Garner. We are truly blessed to have him as part of the team! He has such a genuine heart for helping others. He started his path of ministry work as a youth minister, then went on to work in a group home, was a parent in a maternity home and is now a licensed practitioner in North Carolina where he focuses on helping families.  He shares with us part of his journey and how he was led down this path. Michael is able to use his real-life struggles to help others overcome their own.

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* The natural, organic life moments are where true life change comes from.

* A personal struggle of never feeling good enough.

* Everyone is struggling with something and that’s okay.

* Don’t be ashamed of asking for help or seeking resources.

* How someone can come out of an area of always wanting constant perfection.

* 3 things that can help someone break free of never measuring up to someone else’s expectation.

Michael has such a great story and truly cares for other people. If you would like to get in contact with him, visit our website, www.journeyprinciples.com, where you will find a direct link to email him.

Be sure to get your Focus Tool that Michael mentions in the show. You can gain access to this personal clarity tool at www.journeyprinciples.com/focus. Follow us on Facebook and Twitter to stay connected to all the great resources that are coming out soon! As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Oct 10, 2016

Unpredicted Purpose with David Stallings:

Welcome back JP Family! Today we have a close friend and family member with us. Stephen's uncle, David Stallings, has an amazing story. He has experienced miracle upon miracle after a horrific automobile accident. His story will encourage you and inspire you to keep having faith through a difficult struggle.

In today's podcast you will learn more about the following:
* Car accident that changed his life.
* "Be still and know that I am God."
* 3 ways to stay positive during a tough struggle

We truly hope that you were inspired by David's story. If you liked today's podcast, be sure to follow us on Facebook and Twitter for more great resources. As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Sep 12, 2016

Hope Unfading with Liz Rooney:

It’s great to spend some more time with you JP Family! Today we have an amazing Brain Warrior, Liz Rooney, with us! The adversities she has overcome is truly remarkable. After several, too many to count really, misdiagnoses she finally got an answer; Liz found out she had a traumatic brain injury. Throughout her life she has suffered multiple brain injuries, including over seven vehicle accidents by the time she was only 25 years old. Many of these injuries were misdiagnosed because the doctors simply didn’t know what to look for.

Hope was the only thing that kept her going. Liz has recently founded an organization called Hope Unfading. Her website is a resource site for anyone who is struggling with a brain injury of any type. She is giving her followers raw, real information that can lead them to true healing. 

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Neuroplasticity

* Brain Warriors

* How Liz takes on the warrior fight every day – Jesus!

* 2 things that will cause new growth in our brains.

* Hope Unfading

* 3 steps for someone who is struggling with a brain injury of any kind.

* “It’s one thing to have to walk through hell. But it’s another thing to have someone else voluntarily walk through hell with you.”

This episode with Liz Rooney is packed full of wisdom and encourage for anyone who is struggling. You don’t want to miss it!

 To find out more information on Liz and Hope Unfading, visit her website at www.hopeunfading.com. It is a great resource for fellow brain warriors to find information and personal testimonies to help them on their journey.

Thank you for spending some time with us. Please continue to follow us at www.journeyprinciples.com as well as Facebook and Twitter. As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Sep 9, 2016

A Blessed Journey Part 3 with Sherri Nickerson, Kim Reddick & Natalie Nickerson:

It’s great to be with you for a third time this week! We have an amazing show in store for you today. Sherri is with us, again, along with both of her daughters. Our Director of Operations, Josh Bledsoe, is hosting the show today.

This is the first time all three of the ladies have sat down and discussed everything in length. It was truly a healing process for them. Sherri’s daughters, Kim and Natalie, take us into their childhood. They talk about many things including their strong bond that can’t be broken, forgiveness for their father, and encouragement to anyone going through the same situation.  Be ready to take notes because there are so many great things to take with you from today’s show that everyone can benefit from!

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Being in protection mode.

* Understanding addiction.

* Gift of loving in spite of the difficulties.

* You have a choice in how you live your life!

* Point of forgiveness.

* Multiple things to stick in your bag for your journey.

We truly hope you have enjoyed our three part podcast with Sherri Nickerson and her daughters. They have encouraged anyone who needs help to reach out to them. You can contact us at www.journeyprinciples.com and we can get you in connection with them. Please don’t hesitate and get the help you need. You can choose today to live a better life!

As always we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Sep 8, 2016

A Blessed Journey Part 2 with Sherri Nickerson:

Welcome back JP Family! As promised we have Sherri Nickerson back for part two. Again Sherri is sharing her heart with us and leaving everyone in complete awe!

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* 3 steps to start healing

* Turn a curse into a blessing.

* The Journey Principles

* You are always at the place you are supposed to be at.

It is our hope to inspire your mind and motivate you heart. We sincerely hope that you have enjoyed hearing about Sherri and the things she has overcame. For the first time we are going to be doing a part 3! The third part is going to be with Sherri’s two daughters. Be sure to tune in tomorrow for that amazing episode!

If you or a loved one is victim to domestic violence, please reach out! You can contact us at The Journey Principles or you can reach out to Sherri at Haven Hills. Please share this information and show with those who need it most.

You can continue to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, as well as on Twitter, @stephen_scoggin. Be sure to get your Focus Tool at www.journeyprinciples.com/focus. You will not be disappointed. As always, we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Sep 5, 2016

A Blessed Journey Part 1 with Sherri Nickerson:

Welcome back JP Family! Today Stephen has a very special guest with us. She has been a victim of rape and domestic abuse. Sherri Nickerson is the only survivor of the West Side Rapist and later became a victim of domestic abuse by her husband. She was able to escape that awful situation and is now the CEO of an amazing foundation called Haven Hills. Haven Hills is a safe place for victims of domestic violence.

During today’s podcast Sherri gives us an explicit account of that awful night where she encountered the West Side Rapist. She goes on to talk about her abusive relationship and the signs for other women to pay attention to.

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Today is not my day to die.

* Self-preservation.

* Circle of awareness – How do I know if I am being abused?

* Sherri’s twilight zone

* Hour of power.

As promised, here is the Circle of Awareness and to get a full view of this helpful tool, go to https://www.journeyprinciples.com/podcastepisode034/

Be sure to tune in on Thursday for part 2 with Sherri Nickerson. We will also have a bonus episode on Friday with Sherri and her two daughters. Make sure you don’t miss this powerful episode!

If you or a friend are a victim of domestic violence and need help, please reach out Haven Hills at www.havenhills.org. Or you can reach out to The Journey Principles at www.journeyprinciples.com and we will get you connected.

We look forward to seeing you on the next Journey Principles Podcast!

Aug 29, 2016

Finding the Truth with Dr. Nabeel Qureshi:

Good Morning JP Family! Today Stephen will be talking with a truly remarkable guest! Dr. Nabeel Qureshi is sharing his heartfelt understanding and knowledge with us on two well-known faiths, Islam and Christianity. He is remarkably transparent, authentic, and courageous. It took an enormous amount sacrifice in seeking and finding the truth. He is the author of three books, one of which made the New York Times bestsellers list, Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus: A Devout Muslim Encounters Christianity. His newest book will be released very soon, No God But One – Allah or Jesus. He describes both of these books as his testimony; the first being a testimony of his heart and the second being a testimony of his mind. Tune in to hear some of Dr. Qureshi’s wisdom on these two faiths.

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Similarities between Islam and Christianity

* Differences between the two faiths

* The Trinity

* Theological stumbling block for Muslims

* The “why” behind both Islam and Christianity

* Crusades vs jihad

Dr. Qureshi has graciously given us five copies of his newest book, No God But One – Allah or Jesus. To get your copy simply text “but one” to 33444. The first five listeners to respond will be mailed a copy of the book. To get more information on Nabeel Qureshi, visit his website at www.nabeelqureshi.com. You can also reach him on Facebook and Twitter.

We truly hope you enjoy today’s podcast. Please share this content with those you feel need it most. Don’t forget to access your Focus tool on www.journeyprinciples.com/focus. Until next time continue to follow us on Facebook and Twitter. And as always, we look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

Aug 15, 2016

Discovering a New Normal with Kamerin Lauren:

Hello JP Family! Today Stephen has a guest with him who has a truly remarkable story. Kamerin Lauren takes us through her journey. She grew up in a divorce family where her dad was less than pleasant. In 2011 she was diagnosed with brain cancer. And ever since that diagnosis, she has been in a constant battle to fight for her health. She is still in the thick of her struggle but she doesn’t let that dim her faith and slow her down. She knows that God is working on something great. She has been lead into ministry where she can bring people closer to God. Her story is one that everyone should hear.

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* The importance of emotional intelligence and the effects on others.

* We don’t always see the seeds we plant.

* Prayer is a dialogue, not a monologue.

* Surround yourself with purpose-driven people.

* Create a new normal.

* Three tips to creating a new normal.

It is our hopes that you are encouraged by this podcast with Kamerin. Please share this with friends and family. Kamerin is able to encourage everyone with her powerful story of overcoming. Continue to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and on Twitter, @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles.

Aug 8, 2016

Mission Possible with Steve & Christopher Duffley:

Welcome back JP Family! Today we have some very special guests with us, Steve and Christopher Duffley. They share with us some of the great things they are doing. Christopher is blind and autistic but he gives others hope and encouragement with his music, heart and passion. He has his own podcast titled Mission Possible that should definitely be checked out. 

In this podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Power of adoption

* Power of music therapy

* Value of Facebook sharing

* Stand tall and rise above it all.

* Do the best you can do in life.

We sincerely hope that you enjoy this podcast. Christopher has a special download for all the listeners. Visit his website at christopherduffley.com in order to download this free song. 

Please continue to like, share and comment on the show. That will help to encouraged and inspire others with Christopher's amazing journey! Follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and on twitter, @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles. 

 

Aug 1, 2016

Perfectly Afflicted with Chris Hendricks & Jeff Lawson:

Hello JP Family! Today we have some close friends and special guests with us, Chris Hendricks and Jeff Lawson. Collectively they are entrepreneurs, musician, a motivational speaker, graphic designer and a life coach. They are going to talk with us more on their company called Perfectly Afflicted. Perfectly Afflicted lowers the teen suicide rate through motivational speaking, t-shirt sales and fundraising for schools. They are making a huge impact with teens today and you can truly see their heart through today’s podcast.

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Belief of a teen

* The simplicity of their company

* “Give us one more day.”

* Join the movement, save a life.

* Art if nothing but self-expression.

* Destructive habit of labeling

We are happy to announce that Chris Hendricks will be performing at our upcoming event, Light Up The Darkness. It will be held in Clayton, NC on September 24. For more information contact us via email, feedback@journeyprinciples.com or on Facebook.

To get more information on Perfectly Afflicted, view their awesome t-shirt designs, or to get in contact with Chris or Jeff, visit their website at perfectlyafflicted.com.

As always we are here to help inspire your mind and motivate your heart. Please like, share and comment to help get this material into the hands of those who need it most. Follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and on twitter, @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending more time with you on the next Journey Principles.

Jul 25, 2016

Leading a Brotherhood with Sean Douglas:

Welcome back JP Family! Today Stephen is talking with an up and coming speaker and author, Sean Douglas. He comes from a broken childhood and into tough teenage years. Sean joined the Air Force after 9/11. That historic day was the reason he found his passion while serving in the military. In addition to becoming a great speaker and author, he is a resiliency trainer for the United States Air Force. He brings great insight into what makes a powerful leader. Tune in to hear more about Sean and his passion.

 

Today you will learn more about the following:

  • Board of Directors for your life
  • Brotherhood in the military
  • Importance of a great leader
  • 3 things great leaders do
  • Focus on people and the results will come
  • Harmonize your passion and family
  • Complete your spouse, don’t compete with your spouse
  • Attitude of gratitude
  • Don’t make a permanent solution to a temporary problem

 

We hope you were able to gain inspiration from today’s show. You can get more information on Sean through his Facebook page, Sean Douglas Speaks, as well as his website, sdsmotivates.wix.com/seandouglasspeaks.

 

If you liked today’s show, please like, share and comment. Our goal is to motivate and inspire others. You can follow us through Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and through twitter, @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to seeing you again on the next Journey Principles!

Jul 18, 2016

Next Level Life with Chris LoCurto:

Welcome back JP Family! Today we have a special guest with us, Chris LoCurto. Chris has been Stephen’s life and business mentor for about 6 years now. He specializes in life and business coaching and is the founder of The Poimen Group. He is an accomplished speaker as well as a personality style communication expert. Chris shares with us about his journey that took him to Tennessee. He talks about his struggle with low self-value and how we can learn to raise our own.

In today’s podcast you will learn more about the following:

* Authority boundaries

* Understanding self-worth

* Perspective

* Next Level Life

* Importance of influences

* 3 steps to a higher self-esteem and better boundaries

It is our hope that you are able to gain motivation from our podcast today. You can find more information on and get in contact with Chris LoCurto at chrislocurto.com. As always we look forward to seeing you on the next Journey Principles.

Jun 30, 2016

Capture Every Thought with Annie Chapman Part 2

Good to see you again JP Family! Today Stephen is talking with Annie Chapman for part 2. Annie gives us more insight on forgiveness, her battle to forgive and how she truly overcame it. Comforting others by her testimony is how Annie lives her life. Theoretically she writes her obituary every day. She wants people to remember her by these words, “She loved unconditionally, she served joyfully, and she forgave quickly.” How wonderful would it be if we all lived by that motto?

In today’s episode you will learn:

* Innocent Child vs Horrible Monster

* The meaning behind ‘Free Will’.

* Adversary and Advocate

* Viewing life through dark sunglasses.

* How to finish well.

* Are we reading to just read or reading to ask questions?

We truly enjoyed talking with Annie Chapman for two shows. It is our sincere hope that your mind was inspired and your heart was motivated. You can get more information on Annie Chapman through their website, steveandanniechapman.com.

You can find more information about The Journey Principles at journeyprinciples.com and through social media. Facebook: Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles. Twitter: Stephen_scoggin. We look forward to seeing you again on The Journey Principles!

Jun 27, 2016

Capture Every Thought with Annie Chapman Part 1:

Welcome back JP Family! Today Stephen will be talking with the amazing author, speaker and musician, Annie Chapman. She has been sharing the stage with her husband since 1975 when they married. Annie grew up on a dairy farm in West Virginia. She is a mom to two and a grandmother to six. Annie shares her testimony with us today in a hope to give life to others. Starting from the age of 5, she went from a stage of rage to a place of peace and then to a place of wholeness. Listen in today to hear Annie Chapman’s inspiring story and some ways she was able to move to that place of wholeness.

Today you will learn:

* How to stop an incident from becoming your identity.

* What forgiveness is and what forgiveness is not.

* Anger vs. Love : who wins?

* A story about a pastor’s wife of 30 years who has only known Jesus for 18 months.

* The pain of same or the pain of change? 

Make sure to tune in next week to hear part 2 with Annie Chapman. Until then be sure to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and Twitter, Stephen_scoggin. We look forward to seeing you again on the next Journey Principles.

Jun 20, 2016

Direction, Discernment and Delivery from Divorce with Joel Weldon:

Have you ever wondered who the man is behind the introduction? Well today you will be able to hear from him. Joel Weldon is our voice-over. He is based out of California and does voice-over for many others such as NBC and Toyota. He is going to share with us his story and some things he has learned along the way.

Joel grew up in Northern Minnesota as a farm kid. His parents took him to church; he accepted it and went. But once he got into junior high, he decided he didn’t want to go anymore. He started dabbling in music. That led him to playing in a top 40s band and then on to writing songs. He started college at Bethel and was a bass player in a couple of different bands. Bethel College required every student to take a Bible class. He started taking New Testament Survey, a class that takes you through the New Testament. He felt it would be a breeze, he knows the New Testament. But he had a teacher that would change his life.

Dr. John Piper is a brilliant man. He was new to teaching that class but definitely resonated with Joel. Dr. Piper started talking about a Jesus that Joel had never known. He wanted to know more about this Jesus. It was a truth that Joel had never heard before. That is when he committed his life to Jesus. He then changed his major and moved to California.

Joel ended up in San Diego, living with his uncle and aunt. While there he got involved with some musicians and started traveling the world. He wrote songs and did thousands of concerts on his own.

Around this time his wife of seven years wanted a divorce. She decided that she didn’t want to be married anymore. Majority of that time his two little children were solely with him. He was in a different world; he had to learn many new things such as how to do his 4 year old daughter’s hair. He stepped out of touring completely. He then started working for a production company. The man he was working for sat him down and told him that God was going to take care of him.

Through that journey Joel learned a lot. There is this expectation of everything falling immediately into place once you commit yourself to Christ. But it isn’t like that. It takes time for Him to teach you the path he has for you. It’s a lot of falling on our face and God picking us back up. It takes time.

There was a wave of emotions that Joel experienced during his divorce. He went through a time of questioning God and wondering why He wasn’t there. He came to the realization that hurt must be taken one day at a time. Deep down he knew that God was there, it was just a process. He was battling guilt, pain, hurt, anger, betrayal and even thoughts of retribution. He had to ask himself “how does God want me to respond?” He looked at the fruits of the spirit, love, hope, etc, and knew that was how he was to respond. Looking at things with love and forgiveness allows us to have a better mindset. Once we improve our mindset, the actions will follow.  

One of the biggest things someone of divorce has to face is learning to trust again. There is a feeling that people are going to hurt us. Joel learned to trust anyway. There was a chance that someone could hurt him again but God walked him through it the first time and He would do it again. One way that Joel was able to battle his apprehension with trust was by having complete transparency. Trust isn’t built by word but by actions. He has now been happily married for 17 years.

We sincerely hope you enjoy today’s podcast with Joel Weldon and are able to implement some things into your life. You can learn more about him at his website, joelweldon.com. Until next time, keep sending us your comments and questions at feedback@journeyprinciples.com. Also be sure to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and on twitter @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to being with you on the next Journey Principles!

 

Jun 13, 2016

Chained No More with Robyn Besemann:

Welcome back Journey Principles Family! Today we have author, speaker and songwriter, Robyn Besemann, with us. She is the author of the book “Chained No More” and has her own radio show titled “Chained No More.” She also has a curriculum that helps people who are going through struggles. She is going to share with us about how God has moved in her life.

Robyn grew up in what she calls a “bubble”. She is from a pastor’s family where the environment was full of serving and helping others. She feels she has always been led towards ministry. There is one time, in particular, that she began thinking about how she could reach lots of people.

She became a camp mom one summer. She spent many nights up with children who were sobbing into her shirt and sharing their struggles at home. It made her start thinking that if children are suffering, adults are suffering also. What is the church doing about this? What is the body of Christ doing about this? That’s when she began researching and learning exactly that. She truly believes that God is the answer to all the hurt we have but she just didn’t know how to help. She started getting involved to find ways to help. There was a registration form and on this form there was a box you could check for more information regarding single parent ministry. 450 families checked that box. It became obvious that this was where she was going to start. That then led to the writing of her book titled “Chained No More”.

One of the things Robyn wants to accomplish with her course is that we are able to understand and recognize that we need and want help. Once we understand who or what is hurting us, we can begin the healing process. She doesn’t like to tell anyone what to do, she wants them to figure it out on their own with guidance and direction. She shares a couple of stories with us about 2 females’ lives that were changed. She watched the hand of God at work.

One of those stories is about a lady named Betty. She worked at DHS and came into Robyn’s class as a young professional. During the first class she just cried and cried because of all the hurt she had experienced. She shared about her childhood and growing up in a family of great neglect. Because of her experience, she didn’t want to have children of her own. She was afraid she would put her children through the same childhood she experienced. During her time in Robyn’s class, Betty found great healing. She grew so much. At the end of the class, she shared that she thought she wanted to have a child with her husband of 5 years. They now have a little boy and Betty is a very attentive mom.

Many people with hurt from their childhood, such as Betty, live in fear. The goal is to help us live in faith more than we live in fear. One of the first things that has to happen is that we must recognize that we are living in fear and then why. After that, the tools come into play. People have said that the best thing that has been learned from Robyn’s class is the “click point”. The very instance that a thought enters your mind, you must turn it around. That’s called the click point. Stephen refers to something very similar. It’s called the “challenge thought”. Once a thought comes into your mind, challenge it with a question. And not just any question but the right question. Our mind has the amazing ability to always answer a question that has been asked. But we must start asking the right questions. Instead of “why me?”, ask “what can I learn?”. Both the click point and the challenge thought helps to change the mindset and continue the process of healing.

Robyn also spends some time talking about how to handle confrontation. There is a saying she likes to teach, “put a permanent ridge in your tongue.” When you are f aced with a moment that you would normally fly off the handle at someone, put your tongue in that ridge first and think about it. Nothing good comes from getting overly mad at someone and yelling. You must learn to have healthy confrontation and move to resolution. It isn’t about proving who is right and wrong but about coming to a resolution with the conflict. If two people are facing each other, they can’t face the same direction. In other words, if two people are fighting and arguing with each other, they can’t achieve the same goals.

We truly hope that you enjoy today’s podcast with Robyn Besemann. You can stay in connection with her through her website robynbministries.com. You can also listen to her radio show at toginet.com/show/chainednomore.

If you enjoy today’s show, please like, comment, and share with others. Please continue to send in your questions and comments about the show. You can reach us via email, feedback@journeyprinciples.com. Until next time, be sure to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and on Twitter, @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending some more time with you on the next Journey Principles!

May 30, 2016

Hope Through Suffering The Loss of a Loved One with Pastor Ferrell Hardison:

Welcome back JP Family! Today we have someone with a genuine heart for helping others. Pastor Ferrell Hardison has 40 years of experience being a pastor. The church he leads is called The Bridge and it has about 2500 people in attendance. Most people feel that The Bridge is a large church with a small church feel. Pastor Ferrell and his church truly care about everyone and wanting to help them.

Pastor Ferrell grew up in a traditional church setting. His father was a minister. At the age of 17, Pastor Ferrell could really sense a pull to go into the field as well. He had always felt a little tug towards being a pastor. His home had Christ and the Word at the center. At age 19, he went for it.  

The Bridge has the ability to sincerely care for others. They have such a sincere heart. The church, as a whole, decided that they wanted to be Jesus in the community. Let others see Him through them. They realized that when you are constantly in someone’s face telling them all the wrong things they are doing, they don’t listen. But when you are able to show Jesus and demonstrate His love, people start to ask questions. People don’t want another explanation of the gospel, they want a demonstration.

Like many of our guests, Pastor Ferrell isn’t a stranger to his own adversity. March of 2014, he and his family lost their youngest boy, Mitch, to a drug overdose. Pastor Ferrell was in Atlanta, GA when he heard the news from his wife. He immediately got in his car and drove the 5 hours home. He said that was an incredible time with God. It was just him and God on that car ride home. He was able to come to a certain state of mind so he was able to minister to his wife when he got home.

One of the struggles Pastor Ferrell and his wife faced was guilt. They actually still struggle with it now; it hasn’t been too long ago. They keep asking themselves how they couldn’t see the signs of the addiction. But they are comforted with their walk with Jesus and knowing they will see their son again one day.

Many people feel that once you start your walk with Jesus and accept him as your savior, you will lead a life without struggles and obstacles; that you have to start living a sinless life. God did not promise a painless life. He just simply prepares you for your walk in those struggles. If you are able to walk with Jesus through your struggles, they become much more bearable and you are able to come out the other end of it.

Some people make the mistake of saying that suffering proves there is no God. But there is actually more proof there is a God when someone can walk through their struggles and come out with a smile and joy. You must trust in Him and ask for his guidance. You have to learn to suffer well. Suffering well defines a character. The world is usually looking to see how someone responds to bad things instead of good things. And what better way to help someone go through the same struggle that we already walked through.

No matter who you are, what you’ve done, where you’ve been, we love you. We have all been there one way or another. We have no right to judge anyone. Pastor Ferrell and The Bridge church doesn’t judge and welcomes everyone into their church. That is one of the many things that Pastor Ferrell and The Journey Principles have in common.

Pastor Ferrell leaves us with three steps or principles that we can live by that will help us become fruitful today and help others.

  1. Our top priority is our intimacy with Jesus. We need to have a personal relationship with him. Someone people might be wondering “but how can I find that?” You just have to ask. You don’t have to say anything specific; you just have to be real with Him.
  2. We must love people. Jesus was asked what the most important commandment was. His response was first to love Him. And then next was to love your neighbor as yourself. All the other commandments are based from those two.
  3. We have to be real with people. We must be transparent, vulnerable and honest. People appreciate that.

None of us are processed. We are IN the process. There is always a next step for us.

It is our hope to empower your mind and motivate your heart through today’s podcast with Pastor Ferrell Hardison. You can find out more about him and The Bridge at bridgechurch.cc. You can also follow him on Twitter @pastorferrell.

Make sure to like, share and comment on the show. As always, keep sending in your questions and comments to the team, feedback@journeyprinciples.com. Until next time be sure to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles and on Twitter @stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending some more time with you on the next Journey Principles.

May 19, 2016

Working Through Sexual Abuse with Hope Part 2 with Dr. Jason Newsome:

On today’s show we have Dr. Jason Newsome with us again for Part 2! We are very excited to be able to share with you guys two shows with this amazing overcomer. He shares with us some great insight on what is going through someone’s mind after they have been abused. He starts with their belief system.

Our belief systems are based on our past experiences. Our brains do a wonderful job of cataloging how we react to situations. A person who has been abused usually has a different view on things. Dr. Newsome uses his sexual abuse as an example. He was sexual abused by 5 different people, starting at the age of 5. It gave him the idea that something was wrong with him since it had happened with 5 different people. At the same time he didn’t tell anyone that it was happening so that contributed to his dysfunctional thinking. He didn’t have someone to tell him that it wasn’t okay and that he wasn’t doing anything wrong; the abusers were doing wrong.  He thought this was part of experiencing life.

Dr. Newsome’s abusers were hurtful for the most part. When he would try to resist, he was forced to be abused. When he said no, they would harm him. Then there were times when his abusers were nice and that was very confusing for such a young boy. This led to the thinking that in order for people to be nice to him, he had to say yes. If he was to tell anyone no, he would get hurt. He became a people pleaser. He felt like everyone had to be happy with him all the time. But in reality that is impossible to do. This would then lead to anxiety when he felt like others weren’t happy with him or his decisions.

What is it about any type of abuse that makes people feel that they need to stay silent? Dr. Newsome answered by saying fear and shame. His abusers told him that if he was to tell anyone, he would get in trouble. He was then afraid to say anything. He also felt that two of the abusers might even kill him if he was to tell. That kept him quiet.

Shame also keeps many people silent when abuse is happening or happened. Most people believe they should be better than what’s happening and that they are good enough to avoid these situations. In cases of domestic violence, they feel they should have chosen better or somehow prevented the abuse from happening. When it has been going on for a while, they feel they should have done something before now. In reality the person who is being abused is not at fault and there is nothing they are doing wrong. But in their mind, they are filled with shame and therefore won’t say anything.

In most abuse cases, the abuse doesn’t start until after they have manipulated the victim. Abusers are very good at drawing someone into the situation and then taking advantage. We must forgive in order to live a life of enjoyment again. Un-forgiveness hurts us and our souls. But it starts with us. We have to forgive ourselves before we forgive others. We have to let go of the shame and guilt and understand that it wasn’t our fault.

Dr. Newsome makes a good point that many people talk about forgiveness without truly understanding what it means. The word Jesus used in the Bible for forgiveness means to discharge debt. So when we forgive someone we are releasing them of debt. When we don’t forgive, we are constantly seeking repayment and we seek it in different ways.

The truth about abuse is that we can never be repaid for what was taken. The things that were taken hold no monetary value. Dr. Newsome gives us three steps in how to effectively forgive someone.

  1. We have to acknowledge that we have been harmed. Someone has done us wrong.
  2. We have to truly understand that the abuser cannot repay us for what was taken. And we can’t seek repayment from any other source.
  3. We have to stop seeking repayment. This can be the hardest step in forgiveness.

Dr. Newsome wraps up the podcast with three things he would tell his 11 year old self. At that age he was still being abused and had already been abused by multiple people.

  1. Please tell someone that you trust what is happening. Don’t keep it inside. In order for the abuse to continue, the abuser needs you to stay quiet.
  2. What is happening is not okay and it’s not your fault. No matter how many times or how many people abuse you, you are doing nothing wrong.
  3. You can make it! This does not define your life. This does not have to be your identity. You will have an identity beyond this situation.

We sincerely hope that you enjoy today’s podcast with Dr. Jason Newsome for the second part. He is such an overcomer and has great knowledge to help others overcome abuse. For more information on Dr. Newsome or to get in contact with him, visit his website at drjasonnewsome.com as well as Twitter and Facebook under Dr. Jason Newsome.

If you enjoyed today’s show, please like, share and comment. Many people can relate to the subject of abuse. This might be the show they need to hear in order to give them the courage to tell someone. Please continue to send us your comments and questions at feedback@journeyprinciples.com; we enjoy hearing from all of our listeners! Until next time be sure to follow us on Facebook, The Journey Principles, and on Twitter, Stephen_scoggin.

May 16, 2016

Working Through Sexual Abuse with Hope Part 1 with Dr. Jason Newsome

Welcome back JP Family! Today you are in for a treat. We have Dr. Jason Newsome with us. Dr. Newsome and Stephen met by chance from a Tweet. Dr. Newsome had just read Stephen’s book and replied to a tweet Stephen had made. They started talking from there and we are honored to have him on the show.

Dr. Newsome grew up in southern West Virginia in a poor community.  As a child many don’t realize they are poor, especially when everyone in the community doesn’t have much. His parents taught him that hard work is the most important thing you can do a daily basis. He will never forget the days of working hard for what you have. It has given him the freedom to know that if he was to ever go broke, he would survive. That is not a fear of his and something that he holds close.

When Dr. Newsome was 22 years old, he lost his youngest brother. His brother had brain cancer and had a complication with the treatment. After the funeral service he was giving his last goodbyes to his brother while walking pass his casket. He turned around to walk away and came face to face, nose to nose, with the fifth man who had molested him when he was younger. This man was a family friend. He molested him multiple times between the age of 11 and 13. When Dr. Newsome saw him, he had no idea what to do. 5 seconds felt like 20 minutes. All emotions came to him in such a wave he can’t even recall all of them. His final action was one of maturity. He stuck out his own hand and shook that man’s hand. He simply walked away afterwards. That was the first step of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a process. Many Christians talk about forgiveness as something that is an instantaneous event. It’s not an easy process. The greater the trauma, the greater the process. Dr. Newsome began his process the day he came face to face with the man at his brother’s funeral. There was a point that the man represented all 5 abusers. He was able to forgive. He went on to study mental illness and understanding the world of abusers.

There is a cognitive change when abuse occurs to someone. There is a belief that the world is dangerous. It’s not a conscious thought but it’s the core of all assumptions. Once you have that belief, it is tough to trust people at that point. A person is always on guard and always trying to protect themselves.

 There is a model of mental illness development that Dr. Newsome likes to teach his students. It is called diathesis stress model. This model states that in order for anyone to develop a particular mental disorder they must have a genetic predisposition for the disorder and enough life stress. It doesn’t have to be a 50/50 split between the two. If someone has more points towards a genetic predisposition, they don’t have to experience as much life stress to trigger the mental illness and vice versa. It is a very interesting and complex model but one that Dr. Newsome feels explains the development.

While Dr. Newsome was working in the medical field he was a part time associate pastor. People would come to him for counseling but there were things that were beyond his expertise. He would refer them to a specialist but many times they would not go. It was that point that he went for his master degree in counseling. He had no intent on actually practicing until he fell in love with it. He could see how much it was helping people. Many people seek counsel when they are at the end of the road and feel there is no other option. He loves helping that person move from that place of hurt towards a healthy life. He now has his own practice called Dayspring Counseling Center in West Virginia.

Dr. Newsome was giving so much great information that we have split his podcast into two. We are very excited for you to hear the second part! So make sure you tune in next time to continue this amazing talk with Dr. Jason Newsome. Until next time be sure to follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Also keep sending in your questions. We are really enjoying hearing from you all! You can email us at feedback@journeyprinciples.com. See you next time!

May 12, 2016

Undone Part 2 with Michele Cushatt

Welcome back Journey Principles Family! As promised we have Michele Cushatt back on the show today. She is sharing with us what it is like for the family during a time of struggle. During her battle with cancer she was both the hurting and the supporting. Her father passed away from pancreatic cancer during her time between two of her diagnosis. There is struggle to be had on both sides of the coin.

Anytime a major medical crisis, such as cancer, happens in a family it is disrupted. Our everyday life is turned upside down. The person hurting is battling physical pain, emotional turmoil as well as spiritual doubts. The supporting family members are also struggling with their emotions and possibly with spiritual doubts. It is tough during those times. But Michele shares three things that she learned during her time of struggle as the hurting and the supporting.

  1. Commit and get through. Try not to make any important decisions during this time. Marriage is hard, raising children is hard, everything is harder during this time. Don’t give up. Nobody needs to pack their bags and leave. Commit to your family and get through this tough time together.
  2. Have honest, open dialogue about what is needed; what is working and not working. There are people who have a tough time asking for help in general. When the entire family can see how each member is in their own struggle, it makes it more difficult to ask for help. We need to learn how to graciously receive help as well.
  3. We need to realize that people aren’t going to always get it right. That is okay. In reality everyone is doing the best they can and during this time, the best isn’t always great. It can be hard to know what a suffering person might need. We must give everyone grace during this difficult time.

In between Michele’s first and second diagnosis, she wrote a book titled “Undone”. Eight months following her first diagnosis with cancer, her family grew by three. They took in three children who could no longer be cared for by their mother. It was wonderful and terrible timing all at the same time. On one hand, Michele and her husband were about to be empty nesters. Michele had just gone through her first battle with cancer and it just seemed like terrible timing from that standpoint. But from a divine standpoint, it couldn’t have been more perfectly orchestrated. These three children woke up each morning in an unpredictable environment, not knowing if they were safe. Michele woke up each morning with a similar feeling after having battled cancer. Their cancer journey prepared them to love these children who came from such an unexpected journey themselves.

Her book was finished by the time she was diagnosed with cancer the second and third time. She had to rewrite the epilogue three times because her story kept changing. Her book is coupled with a journal. Journaling was something that Michele did throughout her life off and on. Especially while she was battling her cancer, she would journal every day. She feels that we need to catalog our struggles and doubts. But not only that, we need to also write down our good and beautiful sources of joy.  It is easy to lose sight of the gifts in life when we are in the middle of pain. We should take the time each day to write at least one reason we are thankful. Michele said that saved her in so many ways. It helped her get through that tough time as well as get through things now. It continues to build her faith. She can look back on that journal to see the proof and evidence in God’s faithfulness.

“Hunger drives desperation.” Michele wrote this in her book. She explains to us multiple meanings to that quote. From a physical standpoint, hunger drives desperation. She went 4 weeks without a single drop of water on her tongue. All her nutrition came from IVs and a feeding tube. It’s hard to imagine what that type of thirst is like. From an emotional standpoint, hunger drives desperation. When we have a hunger for something that we cannot fill, we become very desperate. We tend to fill that hunger with all the wrong things. When there is a need for love, approval, purpose, reassurance, etc., a person can be driven to become a very desperate person. There are so many things that are quick and easy fulfillments that we have access to. But the true fulfillment is having a relationship with God. Each time Michele tries to seek her own fulfillment in sometime besides God, he reels her back in.

Michele shares with us a very touching story about her son and one of his races. She learned two things that day her son ran in his first race.

  1. It doesn’t matter where we finish in a race, it only matters that we finish. Her son had a difficult time in his first race. But the fact that he actually finished, meant so much to him.
  2. Michele’s son asked her to stand two thirds of the way into the race. She was very puzzled by this request but did as he asked. When she saw him she could tell that he was on the brink of quitting. She started to cheer like she has never cheered before. That drove him to finish his race. We have been given key moments in other people’s race. Sometimes we aren’t meant to be at the finish line, we are meant to help during the struggle.

Journey Principles does this. We cheer people on wherever they need our help. If it is two thirds of the way into the race, we are there.

The most important thing to remember about suffering is the amazing teacher that it can be. Some people will turn bitter and angry when they are faced with struggles. Allow God to turn that bitterness and anger into growth, wisdom and maturity. If you are currently in a place of grief or struggle, it is worth the effort to become a student rather than a victim.

It is our sincere hope that today’s podcast will grow your mind and motivate your heart. Please comment and share with others. Michele’s story might be the exact testimony they need to hear in order to heal or at least begin that process. You can follow Michele through her blogs at michelecushatt.com as well as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Until next time, be sure to follow The Journey Principles on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles and on Twitter, @Stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending more time with you on the next show!

 

For Michele's Free Gift copy this link or click here |  http://journeyprinciples.com/michele

May 9, 2016

Undone Part 1 with Michele Cushatt -

Today we have one of the most courageous women that we know on the show. She has spent the last 5 years of her life battling cancer and fighting for her life. Michele Cushatt is a living example of faithful perseverance. On top of her struggles, she is a successful speaker and book writer, as well as an instructor and key team member of Dynamic Communicators International. Her first book, “Undone”, was just released and is quickly getting into the hearts and minds of many. Her book is full of grace and poetic truths.

Michele shares with us a cliff notes version of her life over the last 5 years. She starts her story on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving in 2010. It was an ordinary day, her three boys had just left for school, her husband had already went to work, and she was about to leave to go grocery shopping for their big Thanksgiving meal when she got a phone call from her doctor. The conversation started with “Michele, it’s not good.” What her and her doctor thought was a simple ulcer on the side of her tongue due to too much acidic food actually ended up being tongue cancer. Over the weeks that followed she had many doctors’ appointments and had a small section of her tongue removed. They thought they had caught the cancer early enough and there was nothing to worry about. Little did she know that Tuesday morning was actually the start of a 5 year battle that she is still going through.

Three years after she was diagnosed with tongue cancer and when they felt that the cancer would not return, it did. This time it was more severe. In March of 2014 she a more extensive surgery where a third of her tongue was removed and reconstructed. 7 months later, it came back for a third time. This time, as we can imagine, it was much more aggressive and advanced. Within a couple of weeks, Michele has radical surgery. It was 9 hours long and two-thirds of her tongue was removed. They reconstructed her tongue with blood vessels and tissue from her arms, left leg and neck. The doctors gave her 3 weeks to recover and then she went through an extensive round of radiation and chemotherapy. 6 weeks after that she had another surgery with internal radiation on her mouth. Talk about an uphill battle!

A year ago from now, Michele had third degree burns from her face to mid-chest, her vocal cords did not work, she had a feeding tube for 5 months and a tracheotomy opening for almost 2 months. Her doctor said they took her body to the brink, when her body couldn’t take anymore without dying, they brought her back. For the last 12 months she had been trying to come back to life.

On top of all this, her and her family took in 3 more children from a traumatic background and she lost her father to terminal pancreatic cancer. One of the many things that she learned during this struggle was that our lives can be turned upside down in such a short period of time.

Not only did she face a physical struggle, she also faced emotional and spiritual struggles. Her emotional response is a PTSD response. She is still wrestling with this today. She had many questions regarding her faith. She grew up knowing Jesus. She has gone to church since she was 6 months old. But her view on Christianity was much like a math equation. She felt that if she always did good things and didn’t do wrong that she would have a good life. So when she was faced with such an adversity, she got angry. She wrestled with 3 questions that she feels that many people who are faced with adversity wrestle with.

  1. Is God real? Our suffering might indicate that God is not real.
  2. If God is real, is He good? How could a good God allow suffering?
  3. If God is real and He is good, then can I trust Him?

The way Michele came out of these questions was with lots of reading and research. She read the Bible often and books on suffering and the purpose of suffering. With this research she found 4 foundational truths.

4 Foundation Truths

  1. The unexpected is unavoidable. – Michele thought suffering was unique to her. That she was the only person in pain. Once she opened her eyes globally and began listening to other peoples’ stories, she realized suffering is universal. You can’t avoid it.
  2. Suffering is invaluable. – She first viewed suffering as simply an obstacle to the joy and happiness in life. She learned that suffering is the most valuable teacher that we can have. Many people resent suffering rather than learn from it. She was taught more about compassion and the value of the presence of God.
  3. The truth is unshakable. – Michele was in fear that her doubts would lead her to a place of no God. That if she was having doubts that meant there was no God. But in fact doubt didn’t mean she didn’t have faith. Doubt was actually a means to deepen her faith. We must be honest about our doubts, present them to God and allow him to walk us through. The truth stands regardless of us. Our doubts don’t diminish the truth; it leads us to a more understanding of the truth.
  4. The reward is incomparable. There is no comparison to the reward of understanding suffering and struggles. Many times we feel that what is at stake is our health, our career or our finances. But what is really at stake is our faith. Ultimately the only thing we can take with us is our faith or lack of it.

Michele is now much less apologetic of her faith. Before she was very cautious to not offend someone with her beliefs. But now she lives life every day with not knowing if she will be here the next. She feels that her faith is too important not to talk about it. She encourages everyone to live life as if every day is a gift, because it is.

In western civilization we are so buffered by our own desire for comfort and the fact that we can get any need met in a span of seconds. Because of that, we don’t have much of a grasp of the urgency of our circumstance. We don’t spend enough time on the fact that we are mortal. We shouldn’t take a day of our lives for granted. Every single one of us should operate with the foundational awareness of life and death. Always value every moment and the peace within that moment.  Everything can change in a matter of seconds.

Michele has such a fantastic and inspiring story that we have broken it up into 2 segments.  It simply could not fit into 1. So please listen again in a couple of days for part 2 of Michele Cushatt.

We sincerely hope you enjoy today’s podcast. Please comment and share with others. This might be the one testimony that a friend or family member needs to hear. Until next time, continue to follow us on Facebook, The Journey Principles , and on Twitter, @stephen_scoggin. Also keep the questions coming! We enjoy hearing from you all. We will be starting our podcast episode with your questions very soon!

 

May 2, 2016

Mastering Mentorship through Adversity with Doug Stewart: Can you think of something you can do today that will make your life worse? What about something that will make your life better?  Now, are you willing to do what it will take to make your life better? Or will you be a victim?

Our guest today, Doug Stewart, is no stranger to living a life as a victim. It wasn’t until he was in college that his whole mindset changed. During his school years he was told that he had a speech impediment, ADHD, and narcolepsy. He couldn’t write his alphabet until the age of 11. He had one person believe in him and that changed everything.

Doug’s college experience was different than his grade school experience; they actually expected him to perform in school in order to play sports. When he was in grade school, many teachers allowed him to get by because of all his disabilities that were listed in his folder. His 1.4 GPA in college landed him in the office of his academic advisor, Sarah. Sarah is that one person who believed in him.

When Doug went into her office that day, the words she spoke to him changed his life completely. She knew he wasn’t living up to his potential. She said to him “you know what your problem is? Your problem is that you’re a victim of your own thinking.” Sarah made him come into her office every day so she could help him in his classes. Sarah would read his homework out loud to him and he was to draw picture of what it reminded him of. After a couple of weeks, he became more comfortable in his classes. He was remembering the things she read to him and the pictures he drew. He started making higher grades on his tests. At the end of the semester he went to look at his grades and he had an “alarm clock moment”.

An “alarm clock moment” is that feeling you get when your alarm didn’t go off and you are going to be late to something important. He felt that he was behind and he was going to miss out on LIFE. He had missed so much in his life already and he couldn’t wait any longer. He now knew that he could learn and his disabilities were not going to hold him back. Doug started to find ways to develop himself and he needed a mentor to do that. He actually needed many mentors because he was behind in all areas of his life.

Think for a moment if you had a boardroom inside of your mind. Who would you have sitting at your round table? Who would you want to pour into your life? Stephen talks about his board members and they are all people who want to help him succeed and people who he wants to help succeed. Doug talks about all his board members and all the mentors he has in his life. He gives us 5 and a half types of mentors that we should look for. And yes, that is half of a mentor that we should look for in life.

  • The first mentor we should have at our table is a “street view mentor”. This mentor is someone who is wearing the same jersey as us, similar perspective and same mission. Doug gave an example of his wife for this mentor. She has the same perspective as he does and she is on the same mission.
  • The next mentor to look for at our table is a “world view mentor”. This mentor is someone who has a different perspective as us but still the same mission. Doug’s example of his world view mentor is a couple from his hometown, Raleigh, NC, by the names of Tom and Molly. They are a couple that sit above his perspective and can help him miss the road blocks of life.
  • Another mentor to have sitting with us would be the “categorical mentor”. Think of this mentor as a filing cabinet. There are things in this mentor that we would like to replicate but then there are also things in this mentor that we would like to keep closed. We can pull the areas of influence out from this mentor but we don’t have to follow everything about them.
  • The fourth mentor to look for is called the “stealth mentor”. Think of this mentor as a ninja. They go unnoticed. They are people who are mentoring us but have no idea. We are able to have a conversation with them and an impromptu mentor session.
  • The “time machine mentor” is the next one on the list. These are people that we can no longer sit down with to have a cup of coffee but have left us resources. They have come before us and have given us a legacy to follow through with. Doug gave the example of his grandfather, Abraham Lincoln and Jesus. They are no longer here on earth with us but have left us many resources that we can gain wisdom from.
  • This mentor is the five and a half mentor. The half is very important because this person needs to be part of our mentors but shouldn’t take up as much time as the other five. This mentor is called the “anti-mentor”. More than likely we have already thought of a person that would be an anti-mentor of ours. It’s someone that we want nothing to do with and wouldn’t follow anything in their life. There are as many lessons in people we don’t want to be like as there are in people we want to be like. We need to know what we don’t want as much as we need to know what we want.

Having mentors in our lives are important. Something that is just as important, if not more, is menteeship. Menteeship is the capacity and willingness to learn from things around us. In order to be a good mentee, we must recognize that we don’t know everything and we must be willing to learn, not just for ourselves, but for other people’s benefit.

Doug intentionally learns something new each day. He went from not wanting to learn at all, to wanting to learn everything. He lives a life of enthusiastic discovery. He is always willing and wanting to learn.

Everyone has more potential that we all know. Our effect on the world isn’t our responsibility. Our responsibility is to take action and plant seeds. God will harvest those seeds. Our adversities never feel good but the result when we overcome is amazing! Once we start sharing our story, we are planting those seeds.

How many lives would you change if you were to face your main obstacle head on? How many seeds could you plant? If you are willing to change your own life, you can change others. You too can live a life of enthusiastic discovery! To get more information on Doug Stewart, visit his website at dougstewart919.com.

We sincerely hope that you enjoy today’s podcast. We had a great time getting to hear Doug’s story and how he views mentorship. Please take the time to comment and share this with others. As you come across questions for us and comments about Journey Principles, email us at feedback@journeyprinciples.com. We will be having a whole show featuring your questions, so please keep them coming! We look forward to seeing our Journey Principles Family next time!

1 2 Next »