Military Men and Women Matter with John Falkenbury:
Have you ever wondered how service men and women adapt and grow from service troubles? Or if there was some way you can help to do something that could benefit their lives? Well today we have the president of the North Carolina USO with us, Retired Army Lieutenant Colonel John Falkenbury. He is going to talk with us about what the USO does and how they help our military overcome struggles they are faced with.
John currently lives in the Charlotte area and travels at least once a week to their state office in Raleigh. He is a third generation career military with his grandfather, father and brother also serving. His family has a history of serving during times of peace and war. In 1999, John retired from the Army to take over a family business. Their family business was a nursing home. It was a change of pace for him but definitely the right thing to do. When 9-11 occurred, he felt an urge to volunteer and go back. He had several good friends telling him that he was doing exactly what he needed to be doing at that time. He was currently telling his army story and the military story on radios and television in the Charlotte and Raleigh areas. John heard about how the North Carolina USO was undergoing some changes and their need for a president. He applied and was offered the job in 2009.
The North Carolina USO is the oldest operating USO in the world because of their Camp Lejeune center. In 2003 that was their only remaining center in the state. Since then they have opened nine more centers and a mobile unit. They are one of the few, besides the National USO, that has a mobile unit. All of their funding comes from within the state from the generosity of Carolinians.
The USO, as a whole, has been serving wounded and hurting service members consistently for 75 years now. It is much bigger than entertainment and airport lounges. Many people associate the USO with those things. Their national mission is to connect service members with their family, home and nation. They fill the gap where the military services can’t fulfill. They have multiple programs that help a service member when they enter into the service, during their time of serving, exiting the service and after they have served. The USO works hand in hand with the military. They don’t replicate services because that isn’t a good use of their funds. They will continue to do the airport lounges, the home comings, the send offs, as well as reading bedtime stories to children but more importantly, they have to be there for the resiliency programs, the transition phases and the multitude of other programs they offer.
The USO has an amazing honor support team. If a service member is killed overseas, the team ensures they are treated with respect on their way back home. They make sure the plane is there waiting to receive the casket and the Honor Guard is there to escort the member to their final resting place. If someone is traveling throughout the country, the USO network activates. They communicate between each other to help with the travel making sure nobody is alone.
Among many other things, the North Carolina USO will focus on a service member and their spouse during the time of separation from the military. They will teach them how to build their resumes, dress for success and will do mock interviews. Their goal is to not only educate the service member on getting a job but to also educate the corporate world. One thing they do around the state is hold HR Summits for companies. They want these companies to know the military culture, the rank structure, awards, things that aren’t appropriate to say or ask a military member. They will also offer job fairs to help the member get connected with companies that are looking to hire. The North Carolina USO really goes above and beyond to help our service members transition into a civilian lifestyle.
The North Carolina USO has many programs such as the resiliency program and the reset program. The resiliency program teaches techniques of how to overcome negative self-talk. Negative self-talk can lead to much heavier internal conflicts. The reset program has a resiliency part to it and adds in life skills to incorporate into the home life. Stephen has had the honor of speaking at both programs. When Stephen was at his first resiliency program, he spoke for about 30 minutes. He had a young man come up to him afterwards and said that he really connected with Stephen’s story. That young man also shared that he was planning on taking his own life that night but had changed his mind. The Journey Principles has a goal to help reduce military suicide by 10%. We have locked arms in multiple ways with the North Carolina USO. And each time our relationship gets stronger. In September we are partnering with them to host an event called Light Up the Darkness. The goal of this event is to raise awareness and funds to continue serving service members and their families.
John talks about the greatest struggle in the military with active service members. He says it is operational tempo and declining resources. One of the first things to get cut in the military is the family resources. That is where the USO fills the gap. They are here to help not only the service member but also their family.
As a nation we owe a debt of gratitude to these service members. We have been in a war for 13 plus years now and 98-99% of the American citizens have not been directly affected by it. There is currently 1%, or less, that is serving in the military. And they continue to do so freely and without reservation. We should be proud of our men and women serving for the country.
There are many ways that you can help this amazing organization! They are always accepting donations either online or via mail. 92 cents of every dollar goes towards these amazing programs John tells us about. But money is not the only way someone can help. Giving your time is also a great way to contribute towards their cause. The heart of their volunteers is what keeps this organization going. And one more way you can help the USO is by donating items. For example a company just came into the USO lounge at the Raleigh airport and redecorated. It helps make these service members feel more at home. You can get in contact with the North Carolina USO through their website, uso-nc.org or through Twitter and Facebook. All the centers across the state also have their own Facebook page.
We know that today’s podcast was a little different than most of our others. But we sincerely hope you enjoyed hearing about this great organization and how they help our military overcome their struggles. The USO is truly an amazing organization that has passion and dedication to helping and serving the ones who so selflessly serve us.
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Working Through Sexual Abuse with Hope Part 2 with Dr. Jason Newsome:
On today’s show we have Dr. Jason Newsome with us again for Part 2! We are very excited to be able to share with you guys two shows with this amazing overcomer. He shares with us some great insight on what is going through someone’s mind after they have been abused. He starts with their belief system.
Our belief systems are based on our past experiences. Our brains do a wonderful job of cataloging how we react to situations. A person who has been abused usually has a different view on things. Dr. Newsome uses his sexual abuse as an example. He was sexual abused by 5 different people, starting at the age of 5. It gave him the idea that something was wrong with him since it had happened with 5 different people. At the same time he didn’t tell anyone that it was happening so that contributed to his dysfunctional thinking. He didn’t have someone to tell him that it wasn’t okay and that he wasn’t doing anything wrong; the abusers were doing wrong. He thought this was part of experiencing life.
Dr. Newsome’s abusers were hurtful for the most part. When he would try to resist, he was forced to be abused. When he said no, they would harm him. Then there were times when his abusers were nice and that was very confusing for such a young boy. This led to the thinking that in order for people to be nice to him, he had to say yes. If he was to tell anyone no, he would get hurt. He became a people pleaser. He felt like everyone had to be happy with him all the time. But in reality that is impossible to do. This would then lead to anxiety when he felt like others weren’t happy with him or his decisions.
What is it about any type of abuse that makes people feel that they need to stay silent? Dr. Newsome answered by saying fear and shame. His abusers told him that if he was to tell anyone, he would get in trouble. He was then afraid to say anything. He also felt that two of the abusers might even kill him if he was to tell. That kept him quiet.
Shame also keeps many people silent when abuse is happening or happened. Most people believe they should be better than what’s happening and that they are good enough to avoid these situations. In cases of domestic violence, they feel they should have chosen better or somehow prevented the abuse from happening. When it has been going on for a while, they feel they should have done something before now. In reality the person who is being abused is not at fault and there is nothing they are doing wrong. But in their mind, they are filled with shame and therefore won’t say anything.
In most abuse cases, the abuse doesn’t start until after they have manipulated the victim. Abusers are very good at drawing someone into the situation and then taking advantage. We must forgive in order to live a life of enjoyment again. Un-forgiveness hurts us and our souls. But it starts with us. We have to forgive ourselves before we forgive others. We have to let go of the shame and guilt and understand that it wasn’t our fault.
Dr. Newsome makes a good point that many people talk about forgiveness without truly understanding what it means. The word Jesus used in the Bible for forgiveness means to discharge debt. So when we forgive someone we are releasing them of debt. When we don’t forgive, we are constantly seeking repayment and we seek it in different ways.
The truth about abuse is that we can never be repaid for what was taken. The things that were taken hold no monetary value. Dr. Newsome gives us three steps in how to effectively forgive someone.
Dr. Newsome wraps up the podcast with three things he would tell his 11 year old self. At that age he was still being abused and had already been abused by multiple people.
We sincerely hope that you enjoy today’s podcast with Dr. Jason Newsome for the second part. He is such an overcomer and has great knowledge to help others overcome abuse. For more information on Dr. Newsome or to get in contact with him, visit his website at drjasonnewsome.com as well as Twitter and Facebook under Dr. Jason Newsome.
If you enjoyed today’s show, please like, share and comment. Many people can relate to the subject of abuse. This might be the show they need to hear in order to give them the courage to tell someone. Please continue to send us your comments and questions at email@example.com; we enjoy hearing from all of our listeners! Until next time be sure to follow us on Facebook, The Journey Principles, and on Twitter, Stephen_scoggin.
Working Through Sexual Abuse with Hope Part 1 with Dr. Jason Newsome
Welcome back JP Family! Today you are in for a treat. We have Dr. Jason Newsome with us. Dr. Newsome and Stephen met by chance from a Tweet. Dr. Newsome had just read Stephen’s book and replied to a tweet Stephen had made. They started talking from there and we are honored to have him on the show.
Dr. Newsome grew up in southern West Virginia in a poor community. As a child many don’t realize they are poor, especially when everyone in the community doesn’t have much. His parents taught him that hard work is the most important thing you can do a daily basis. He will never forget the days of working hard for what you have. It has given him the freedom to know that if he was to ever go broke, he would survive. That is not a fear of his and something that he holds close.
When Dr. Newsome was 22 years old, he lost his youngest brother. His brother had brain cancer and had a complication with the treatment. After the funeral service he was giving his last goodbyes to his brother while walking pass his casket. He turned around to walk away and came face to face, nose to nose, with the fifth man who had molested him when he was younger. This man was a family friend. He molested him multiple times between the age of 11 and 13. When Dr. Newsome saw him, he had no idea what to do. 5 seconds felt like 20 minutes. All emotions came to him in such a wave he can’t even recall all of them. His final action was one of maturity. He stuck out his own hand and shook that man’s hand. He simply walked away afterwards. That was the first step of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a process. Many Christians talk about forgiveness as something that is an instantaneous event. It’s not an easy process. The greater the trauma, the greater the process. Dr. Newsome began his process the day he came face to face with the man at his brother’s funeral. There was a point that the man represented all 5 abusers. He was able to forgive. He went on to study mental illness and understanding the world of abusers.
There is a cognitive change when abuse occurs to someone. There is a belief that the world is dangerous. It’s not a conscious thought but it’s the core of all assumptions. Once you have that belief, it is tough to trust people at that point. A person is always on guard and always trying to protect themselves.
There is a model of mental illness development that Dr. Newsome likes to teach his students. It is called diathesis stress model. This model states that in order for anyone to develop a particular mental disorder they must have a genetic predisposition for the disorder and enough life stress. It doesn’t have to be a 50/50 split between the two. If someone has more points towards a genetic predisposition, they don’t have to experience as much life stress to trigger the mental illness and vice versa. It is a very interesting and complex model but one that Dr. Newsome feels explains the development.
While Dr. Newsome was working in the medical field he was a part time associate pastor. People would come to him for counseling but there were things that were beyond his expertise. He would refer them to a specialist but many times they would not go. It was that point that he went for his master degree in counseling. He had no intent on actually practicing until he fell in love with it. He could see how much it was helping people. Many people seek counsel when they are at the end of the road and feel there is no other option. He loves helping that person move from that place of hurt towards a healthy life. He now has his own practice called Dayspring Counseling Center in West Virginia.
Dr. Newsome was giving so much great information that we have split his podcast into two. We are very excited for you to hear the second part! So make sure you tune in next time to continue this amazing talk with Dr. Jason Newsome. Until next time be sure to follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Also keep sending in your questions. We are really enjoying hearing from you all! You can email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. See you next time!
Undone Part 2 with Michele Cushatt
Welcome back Journey Principles Family! As promised we have Michele Cushatt back on the show today. She is sharing with us what it is like for the family during a time of struggle. During her battle with cancer she was both the hurting and the supporting. Her father passed away from pancreatic cancer during her time between two of her diagnosis. There is struggle to be had on both sides of the coin.
Anytime a major medical crisis, such as cancer, happens in a family it is disrupted. Our everyday life is turned upside down. The person hurting is battling physical pain, emotional turmoil as well as spiritual doubts. The supporting family members are also struggling with their emotions and possibly with spiritual doubts. It is tough during those times. But Michele shares three things that she learned during her time of struggle as the hurting and the supporting.
In between Michele’s first and second diagnosis, she wrote a book titled “Undone”. Eight months following her first diagnosis with cancer, her family grew by three. They took in three children who could no longer be cared for by their mother. It was wonderful and terrible timing all at the same time. On one hand, Michele and her husband were about to be empty nesters. Michele had just gone through her first battle with cancer and it just seemed like terrible timing from that standpoint. But from a divine standpoint, it couldn’t have been more perfectly orchestrated. These three children woke up each morning in an unpredictable environment, not knowing if they were safe. Michele woke up each morning with a similar feeling after having battled cancer. Their cancer journey prepared them to love these children who came from such an unexpected journey themselves.
Her book was finished by the time she was diagnosed with cancer the second and third time. She had to rewrite the epilogue three times because her story kept changing. Her book is coupled with a journal. Journaling was something that Michele did throughout her life off and on. Especially while she was battling her cancer, she would journal every day. She feels that we need to catalog our struggles and doubts. But not only that, we need to also write down our good and beautiful sources of joy. It is easy to lose sight of the gifts in life when we are in the middle of pain. We should take the time each day to write at least one reason we are thankful. Michele said that saved her in so many ways. It helped her get through that tough time as well as get through things now. It continues to build her faith. She can look back on that journal to see the proof and evidence in God’s faithfulness.
“Hunger drives desperation.” Michele wrote this in her book. She explains to us multiple meanings to that quote. From a physical standpoint, hunger drives desperation. She went 4 weeks without a single drop of water on her tongue. All her nutrition came from IVs and a feeding tube. It’s hard to imagine what that type of thirst is like. From an emotional standpoint, hunger drives desperation. When we have a hunger for something that we cannot fill, we become very desperate. We tend to fill that hunger with all the wrong things. When there is a need for love, approval, purpose, reassurance, etc., a person can be driven to become a very desperate person. There are so many things that are quick and easy fulfillments that we have access to. But the true fulfillment is having a relationship with God. Each time Michele tries to seek her own fulfillment in sometime besides God, he reels her back in.
Michele shares with us a very touching story about her son and one of his races. She learned two things that day her son ran in his first race.
Journey Principles does this. We cheer people on wherever they need our help. If it is two thirds of the way into the race, we are there.
The most important thing to remember about suffering is the amazing teacher that it can be. Some people will turn bitter and angry when they are faced with struggles. Allow God to turn that bitterness and anger into growth, wisdom and maturity. If you are currently in a place of grief or struggle, it is worth the effort to become a student rather than a victim.
It is our sincere hope that today’s podcast will grow your mind and motivate your heart. Please comment and share with others. Michele’s story might be the exact testimony they need to hear in order to heal or at least begin that process. You can follow Michele through her blogs at michelecushatt.com as well as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Until next time, be sure to follow The Journey Principles on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles and on Twitter, @Stephen_scoggin. We look forward to spending more time with you on the next show!
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Undone Part 1 with Michele Cushatt -
Today we have one of the most courageous women that we know on the show. She has spent the last 5 years of her life battling cancer and fighting for her life. Michele Cushatt is a living example of faithful perseverance. On top of her struggles, she is a successful speaker and book writer, as well as an instructor and key team member of Dynamic Communicators International. Her first book, “Undone”, was just released and is quickly getting into the hearts and minds of many. Her book is full of grace and poetic truths.
Michele shares with us a cliff notes version of her life over the last 5 years. She starts her story on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving in 2010. It was an ordinary day, her three boys had just left for school, her husband had already went to work, and she was about to leave to go grocery shopping for their big Thanksgiving meal when she got a phone call from her doctor. The conversation started with “Michele, it’s not good.” What her and her doctor thought was a simple ulcer on the side of her tongue due to too much acidic food actually ended up being tongue cancer. Over the weeks that followed she had many doctors’ appointments and had a small section of her tongue removed. They thought they had caught the cancer early enough and there was nothing to worry about. Little did she know that Tuesday morning was actually the start of a 5 year battle that she is still going through.
Three years after she was diagnosed with tongue cancer and when they felt that the cancer would not return, it did. This time it was more severe. In March of 2014 she a more extensive surgery where a third of her tongue was removed and reconstructed. 7 months later, it came back for a third time. This time, as we can imagine, it was much more aggressive and advanced. Within a couple of weeks, Michele has radical surgery. It was 9 hours long and two-thirds of her tongue was removed. They reconstructed her tongue with blood vessels and tissue from her arms, left leg and neck. The doctors gave her 3 weeks to recover and then she went through an extensive round of radiation and chemotherapy. 6 weeks after that she had another surgery with internal radiation on her mouth. Talk about an uphill battle!
A year ago from now, Michele had third degree burns from her face to mid-chest, her vocal cords did not work, she had a feeding tube for 5 months and a tracheotomy opening for almost 2 months. Her doctor said they took her body to the brink, when her body couldn’t take anymore without dying, they brought her back. For the last 12 months she had been trying to come back to life.
On top of all this, her and her family took in 3 more children from a traumatic background and she lost her father to terminal pancreatic cancer. One of the many things that she learned during this struggle was that our lives can be turned upside down in such a short period of time.
Not only did she face a physical struggle, she also faced emotional and spiritual struggles. Her emotional response is a PTSD response. She is still wrestling with this today. She had many questions regarding her faith. She grew up knowing Jesus. She has gone to church since she was 6 months old. But her view on Christianity was much like a math equation. She felt that if she always did good things and didn’t do wrong that she would have a good life. So when she was faced with such an adversity, she got angry. She wrestled with 3 questions that she feels that many people who are faced with adversity wrestle with.
The way Michele came out of these questions was with lots of reading and research. She read the Bible often and books on suffering and the purpose of suffering. With this research she found 4 foundational truths.
4 Foundation Truths
Michele is now much less apologetic of her faith. Before she was very cautious to not offend someone with her beliefs. But now she lives life every day with not knowing if she will be here the next. She feels that her faith is too important not to talk about it. She encourages everyone to live life as if every day is a gift, because it is.
In western civilization we are so buffered by our own desire for comfort and the fact that we can get any need met in a span of seconds. Because of that, we don’t have much of a grasp of the urgency of our circumstance. We don’t spend enough time on the fact that we are mortal. We shouldn’t take a day of our lives for granted. Every single one of us should operate with the foundational awareness of life and death. Always value every moment and the peace within that moment. Everything can change in a matter of seconds.
Michele has such a fantastic and inspiring story that we have broken it up into 2 segments. It simply could not fit into 1. So please listen again in a couple of days for part 2 of Michele Cushatt.
We sincerely hope you enjoy today’s podcast. Please comment and share with others. This might be the one testimony that a friend or family member needs to hear. Until next time, continue to follow us on Facebook, The Journey Principles , and on Twitter, @stephen_scoggin. Also keep the questions coming! We enjoy hearing from you all. We will be starting our podcast episode with your questions very soon!
Mastering Mentorship through Adversity with Doug Stewart: Can you think of something you can do today that will make your life worse? What about something that will make your life better? Now, are you willing to do what it will take to make your life better? Or will you be a victim?
Our guest today, Doug Stewart, is no stranger to living a life as a victim. It wasn’t until he was in college that his whole mindset changed. During his school years he was told that he had a speech impediment, ADHD, and narcolepsy. He couldn’t write his alphabet until the age of 11. He had one person believe in him and that changed everything.
Doug’s college experience was different than his grade school experience; they actually expected him to perform in school in order to play sports. When he was in grade school, many teachers allowed him to get by because of all his disabilities that were listed in his folder. His 1.4 GPA in college landed him in the office of his academic advisor, Sarah. Sarah is that one person who believed in him.
When Doug went into her office that day, the words she spoke to him changed his life completely. She knew he wasn’t living up to his potential. She said to him “you know what your problem is? Your problem is that you’re a victim of your own thinking.” Sarah made him come into her office every day so she could help him in his classes. Sarah would read his homework out loud to him and he was to draw picture of what it reminded him of. After a couple of weeks, he became more comfortable in his classes. He was remembering the things she read to him and the pictures he drew. He started making higher grades on his tests. At the end of the semester he went to look at his grades and he had an “alarm clock moment”.
An “alarm clock moment” is that feeling you get when your alarm didn’t go off and you are going to be late to something important. He felt that he was behind and he was going to miss out on LIFE. He had missed so much in his life already and he couldn’t wait any longer. He now knew that he could learn and his disabilities were not going to hold him back. Doug started to find ways to develop himself and he needed a mentor to do that. He actually needed many mentors because he was behind in all areas of his life.
Think for a moment if you had a boardroom inside of your mind. Who would you have sitting at your round table? Who would you want to pour into your life? Stephen talks about his board members and they are all people who want to help him succeed and people who he wants to help succeed. Doug talks about all his board members and all the mentors he has in his life. He gives us 5 and a half types of mentors that we should look for. And yes, that is half of a mentor that we should look for in life.
Having mentors in our lives are important. Something that is just as important, if not more, is menteeship. Menteeship is the capacity and willingness to learn from things around us. In order to be a good mentee, we must recognize that we don’t know everything and we must be willing to learn, not just for ourselves, but for other people’s benefit.
Doug intentionally learns something new each day. He went from not wanting to learn at all, to wanting to learn everything. He lives a life of enthusiastic discovery. He is always willing and wanting to learn.
Everyone has more potential that we all know. Our effect on the world isn’t our responsibility. Our responsibility is to take action and plant seeds. God will harvest those seeds. Our adversities never feel good but the result when we overcome is amazing! Once we start sharing our story, we are planting those seeds.
How many lives would you change if you were to face your main obstacle head on? How many seeds could you plant? If you are willing to change your own life, you can change others. You too can live a life of enthusiastic discovery! To get more information on Doug Stewart, visit his website at dougstewart919.com.
We sincerely hope that you enjoy today’s podcast. We had a great time getting to hear Doug’s story and how he views mentorship. Please take the time to comment and share this with others. As you come across questions for us and comments about Journey Principles, email us at email@example.com. We will be having a whole show featuring your questions, so please keep them coming! We look forward to seeing our Journey Principles Family next time!
Welcome back JP Nation! You are in for a treat. We are truly honored to have an incredible guest with us today. We have Steve Noble on our show to share some wisdom with you. He is the host of Called2Action Radio as well as a teacher at a seminary school.
Steve shares with us a little of his journey in becoming a born again Christian. He has always viewed himself as a Christian, much like most of the population. The one difference between the Christian he was and the one he is now, is one simply word, grace. He had truth, but no grace. Jesus had grace. When he was being nailed to the cross, he could have brought wrath but instead he brought on grace. He says one simple thing that speaks a million words, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34, ESV)
Have you ever gotten into a rut basing your self-worth on material things? Have you ever felt depressed about the way your life was going? Steve gives us three ways to overcome depression.
There are two different times that Steve had a struggle he overcame and he shares those with us today. But he wasn’t able to overcome these struggles on his own. God sent his wife to walk with him through these adversities. When he started his Called2Action radio ministry, it was a different path than everyone else in his family had taken. He and his wife were visiting family when he hit a wall. He felt so shameful that he wasn’t making as much money as the rest of his family. He was holding his self-worth and value in material things. He was condemning himself for not being as “successful” as the rest of the family. His wife then spoke to him and pulled him out of that depression. She explained to him how he was called to that type of work and how he must obey! His other struggle was very similar. But instead of his wife talking him through his depression, she just simply handed him a Bible and said that he needed to get back into God’s Word. Both times, he was able to have a quiet, calm reserve come over him. His wife was standing with him and gave him the courage he needed to move forward. He didn’t know what the future held, but he knew that God was holding that future for him.
There are so many people who endure the battlefield of the mind. They are having a hard time distinguishing true thoughts against the lies of the enemy. You have to obtain fuel from the outside and Jesus is that fuel. God will perform miracles; they just take time. Miracles happen through the perseverance of faith. Are you willing to continue to ask for something and have the faith that God will make it happen? God is for you and with you. He proved that on the cross.
You will not be disappointed by tuning in today. Steve keeps us all on the edge of our seats the entire time. He has great wisdom that he is sharing with us. To get more information on Steve Noble or to reach out to him, you can visit his website at c2atoday.com. You can also follow him on Facebook at c2a radio as well as Twitter @stevenobleradio.
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Welcome back JP Nation! We have an amazing music artist to share with you today. He wrote his first song at the age of 5 and got his start as a street performer during the Olympics in Georgia. Tune in to listen to Michael Tolcher as he walks us through the reason he plays music.
Michael grew up in a home with five other siblings. He has two older brothers so playing sports was common in his home. We went on to get a running scholarship to the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga. But in 1996 he put down running and picked up music. Performing on the streets during the Olympics was the first time he had ever performed for a crowd and he fell in love. It was the first time he had felt what it was like to truly inspire people.
Throughout his 20s, Michael started to write some really powerful lyrics. He refers to this time as “squeezing his sponge” because he was sharing his heart with others. He felt like his lyrics were a musical journal entry. He was holding a lot of things inside his head and once he started to write them down, he was healing. He noticed when he would “squeeze his sponge” people were relating and hopefully healing in the process.
Music is medicine for Michael. He recalls a moment, during a dark time, when he heard a Dave Matthews Band’s song. The words that were sung echoed in his mind. He felt like he wasn’t alone. There was a glimmer of hope that happiness would return. That is when he decided that he would write songs to give people hope and let them know they aren’t alone.
It hasn’t always been about writing music from 1996 forward. There was a time when Michael was hit with many struggles all at once. There came a day when his label, agent, lawyer, and wife were no longer there or on his team. He also lost his 11 year dog companion during that time. He was alone. He knew he had to pick himself up off the ground. It was 95 degrees in Georgia and he went for a run. When questioned why he was doing so, his reply was “If I do tough things, I am going to be tough.” He knew that he needed to keep going with his life and felt like he needed to overcome physically tough challenges in order to be mentally tough.
Michael leaves us with three things he does to help overcome adversity.
When you maintain a spirit of wonderment, you can express joy to other people. Michael Tolcher does that through his music. He writes amazing words that are truly inspiring. Check him out at michaeltolcher.com.
We sincerely hope that you enjoy today’s podcast. We had a great time talking with Michael and can’t wait to see him perform at our Light Up the Darkness event in September. You don’t want to miss it! There will be more information coming out soon so make sure you are following us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, and Twitter, @stephen_scoggin. Also starting soon we are going to have a show specifically with your questions and feedback. Please email us at email@example.com, we can’t wait to hear from you! Until next time please comment and share with your family friends.
Hey there Journey Principles Nation! As promised we have Amber Lehman with us again today. She has such an incredible story. She is a true inspiration to everyone out there who is struggling with anything!
Last time she let us travel with her as she took us through her journey. She has gone from a prostitute to a ministry leader. God wrapped her in righteousness when she felt like she deserved condemnation. I am sure there are many people who feel they should be condemned but this podcast is here to help.
Amber is the Executive Director of First Choice Pregnancy Solutions. Amber and her team are here to help any female who is pregnant get the help they need. Many times these females are thinking abortion. First Choice Pregnancy is here to encourage Life. They get to know each female and what each heart’s desire actually is. Many times it is to have the baby. From there First Choice Pregnancy walks with them through the entire process.
Certain things can be done to help you or someone you know walk through a difficult time. Here are some steps that will help you.
Whether you are struggling with a certain conflict in your life or trying to make a tough decision, these steps can help you on during your way. Taking that initial step of seeking help can be difficult and scary. Often times it is the hardest step to take. If you have a deep conviction for something ,you are usually more willing to dig deeper to receive the results.
If you are seeking healing, Amber leaves us with three steps to heal, grow, and go.
There are many resources available to you. Some ways to get in touch with Amber is through her email firstname.lastname@example.org, Facebook at Amber Lehman, or their website firstchoicenc.org. You can always reach out to The Journey Principles. We have helped many people receive the healing they seek.
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Welcome back JP Nation! Today we have a story that you will definitely want to tune into. We have the Executive Director of First Choice Pregnancy Solutions based out of Raleigh, NC joining us today. Her journey didn’t start out like most would think. She went from being a prostitute to a ministry director! Please join us in welcoming Amber Lehman!
Have you ever felt like you have done something so wrong that you could never be forgiven? Or maybe you felt like your life’s path wasn’t one that depicted a “Christian lifestyle” and therefore you would be turned away from a church? Well Amber’s story glorifies God’s amazing grace and shows that God forgives everything as long as you follow a path of serving Him.
Amber started her teens unlike most. She became pregnant at the age of 15. Started using drugs and alcohol following her choice of abortion in order to hide the pain and keep it a secret. That day she consciously hardened her heart and stopped herself from having feelings. Not much long after, she decided she wanted to turn the tables on men and became a high dollar call girl in her own town.
In September of 1998 she lost two friends in a boating accident and this opened her eyes. She went to two funerals on a Saturday and got up Sunday morning to attend church. Every week she would go back to church but nothing really changed in her life. She would party on Saturday night and go to church on Sunday. December 12 of that same year everything changed for Amber. It was the first time she had seen a play depicting Jesus Christ’s life.
Every single time a nail was hammered in Jesus on the cross, Amber heard “I did this for you. I did this for you. I did this for you.” She surrendered her life to Jesus Christ that night.
About a month later her hometown held their annual Sanctity of Life Sunday. This time it had a much deeper meaning to her. She realized for the first time that she had taken a human life when she made a tough choice of abortion. She was unglued. She showed up at her pastor’s office unannounced and he made time to see her and speak with her about her faith. Her eyes were finally opened that day.
Amongst the crying she caught her pastor smiling at her. He then said “I am watching Christ make a new creation in front of my eyes.”
Amber’s sins were paid for at that cross. Everyone’s sins were paid for at that cross.
Are you terrified of coming to terms with your past or current situation? Are you worried that you might be judged if you were to share your story? Amber’s story is a great example of how you will be blessed once you place your faith in Christ. You will be forgiven. And then your story can help someone else release the chains of guilt.
We encourage you to reach out to someone you trust. If you don’t have anyone to reach out to, reach out to us. The Journey Principles is a place of non-judgmental love. There is no discrimination within JP. Don’t wait. Begin that healing process and experience God’s amazing grace.
“I don’t care where they’ve been, it’s where they are going.” – Stephen Scoggins
You do not want to miss this podcast today. Amber’s story is absolutely amazing and gives hope to those struggling right now. This is just Part 1, make sure to tune in for Part 2 in just a couple of days. If you enjoy today’s episode, please comment and share with others. And until next time follow us on Facebook at Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles, as well as on Twitter at stephen_scoggins.
Hello JP Nation! Today we have a Master Coach joining us. He went from real estate to world changer. Marc Mawhinney is a coaches’ coach. He is a native Canadian but his show and education systems are all over the globe. We agree with Marc when he says “You are put here to make an impact on the community and all around the world.” Marc is doing just that!
The best coaches seek their own coach. You have to be ahead of your clients in order to help them. There are a few things Marc looks for in a coach to decide if they have what it takes to be a coach. He has to be selective when it comes to his own clients.
Marc is no stranger to adversity. Marc has a background in real estate. Throughout his 20s he had a successful real estate business. Unfortunately when he hit his 30s he suffered not one but two business closures as well as a divorce. Marc decided to not dwell on those times but to make a comeback. It wasn’t a matter of IF he was going to make a comeback but of WHEN. During this tough time he had help from many coaches. Marc is an entrepreneur and he knew he wanted to continue down that path. He would much rather work seven days a week if it meant that he was able to do what he loves. That brought him into the world of coaching. He started out by wanting to help any entrepreneur. He had many clients ranging from brick and mortar business owners to coaches. It was night and day for him. He really enjoyed coaching the coaches. He made a commitment to do what he enjoys this time around. He decided to follow his gut and become a coaches’ coach.
When asked “what are the top 3 things a coach needs to know in order to serve people well?’, Marc jokes that he could give us 30. But he does narrow it down to 3 for us.
“Everything happens for a reason.”
That is a very cliché statement but holds to be very true. If it wasn’t for Marc’s adversities in his early 30s, he wouldn’t be able to reach people all over the globe. Adversity either overcomes you or you overcome it. They help to shape us. Marc decided to overcome his adversities and join the group of people who do what they love.
We have no doubt that you will enjoy listening to Marc Mawhinney today. If you do, please comment below and share with your friends and family. Until next time check us out online at www.journeyprinciples.com and make sure to follow us on Facebook, Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles.
As promised, we have Chris Hannibal back for another week! Master magician and headliner for our Journey Principles Light Up the Darkness event coming up on Saturday, September 24th.
Last week we talked about the importance of finding your passions and dreams. This week, Hannibal talks about the difference between passion and ability. You can be passionate about something but have no ability with that passion. It is when your passion and ability meet that you will find your God-given purpose.
Pull out a piece of paper and list five things that you would do for absolutely free if everything was considered equal. It is within those five things that you can find your passion and ability, your God-given purpose. The next step is to refine that skill and find your own style within it.
Shine, don’t reflect!
Hannibal’s mom had that quote posted in his home growing up. This is something he has chosen to live each day by. When you look into a mirror you see your reflection. When many people are just starting to pursue their purpose, it is okay to reflect someone else that you admire. You are learning, you are refining the skill. There comes a time that you must stop reflecting them and look inside for your own style, your own way. If it is a God given talent and purpose, your skill is found within you. Let your own style shine and don’t reflect those styles of others. Shine, don’t reflect!
Lastly, is there something that you are struggling with or having a hard time overcoming? Hannibal’s advice is to just breathe. Live in the moment. Breathe in. Take in everything around you. Breathe out. We live in such a miraculous world. A sunrise can become mundane very quickly. It can simply mean “get up, time for work.” But if we take the time to look around us and appreciate everything around us, we can live a much more fulfilling life. Take in the world much like an infant and toddler take in new things. Live in astonishment!
Join with us today in listening to Chris Hannibal talk about all these amazing life changing things. You don’t want to miss it. If you enjoyed listening to Chris Hannibal today, make sure to come check out his talents at our Light Up the Darkness event on September 24th! You will not be disappointed!
Make sure to check out Chris Hannibal Part 1 if you have not done so already. But until next time, check us out at www.journeyprinciples.com and follow us on Facebook at Stephen Scoggins The Journey Principles.
Chris Hannibal is a master magician that inspires and leaves his audiences in complete awe! He started his stage career at the age of 6. You will be on the edge of your seat while he tells the story of how his mom was taken from the earth much too early. Please join us in welcoming Chris Hannibal.
Stephen and Hannibal met at a USO event that they were doing together. Stephen had the opportunity to sit down with Hannibal to hear his story and from the beginning was mesmerized. Hannibal is now a master magician and a motivational speaker, but he didn’t start off that way. He found his God given gift and purpose while doing street performances just to keep food on his family’s table. He believes that each step of your journey is simply getting you closer to your dreams and goals. Sometimes those dreams and goals aren’t realized until later in the journey. He would never have dreamed of his accomplishments when he first started. If he had seen his accomplishments before he started, he might have been too intimidated to even start.
We can all take a lesson from that: you may not be exactly where you want to be right now, but keep going. This step, perceived as big or small, is simply getting you to where you are meant to be. As Stephen said, each step up a mountain is making your legs stronger. So when you start to climb your next mountain, you have more strength than you did before. Your next climb will be easier and faster.
Hannibal shares with the listener the importance of finding your passion and talent. His mom always supported and encouraged him to pursue and continue with his talents. She was taken away from this earth too soon. Life is too short to waste your passions and talents. When she was unexpectantly taken, Hannibal was encouraged to never give up. His talents were gifts given to him and they were natural skills that he sharpened over time.
Don’t take your talents and passions for granted. Sharpen them now, live them out, and work to make them better.
Everyone can and should take the time to find their passions and talents. Some steps and questions to ask yourself that can help you live the life you are meant to lead are as follows:
Tune in with us today to hear the heartbreaking story of how Hannibal’s mom left us much too early and how he went from a street performer to a master magician. Don’t forget that this is only Part 1 of our incredible podcast with Chris Hannibal. Join us again next week to continue hearing from this amazing speaker! Please comment below and share us with your family and friends. See you next week for Chris Hannibal Part 2!
Peace Beyond Addiction Part 2 | With Lee Flach
Hello again Journey Principles family, we sincerely hope you are enjoying these podcast. Our guest is real life examples that you can overcome.
In part two of our show with Lee Flach, we get Lee's practical take aways from Part Two of Peace Beyond Addiction.
For those who love and addict.
Resist the urge to enable, allowing can increase the time that a user may need to heal and break free. Lee shares that his wife was always loving but always had very clear boundaries and that included putting him out and loving him from afar.
Intercede in prayer, while Lee's wife was deleting proper boundaries she was in constant prayer asking for her miracle and asking for Lee to be safe and for God to break Lee's heart away from the addiction and toward the father.
Praying for discernment, Discernment should I be used while addict it trying to beat the addiction. The addiction clouds the mind, which also means the user, is not in a healthy state to have the full authority of trust. As trust is earned, allow small levels of new trust to be built. It gives the addict hope, and they can see the little wins they are making each day. At the same time don't take it personally if addict relapses, there is a real chemical, physical, and spiritual battle being fought.
Addiction is illogical - It's tough to understand illogical acts or struggles. So it's best to find peace in the scriptures and through journaling. Remember the addict is working through areas of the past, present and what they believe they feel like their future could be. Even when things are going well, addicts feel as though they are in fear of success and failure. They are building a new standard, and if they have known addiction for a long time then, even healthy sobriety can feel awkward to them. This is where patience is needed and reassurance that the adjustment can take place and will allow more joy in the future.
Addicts Four Steps Toward Health
We can't change truly change until we want to change the inside
Lee reminds us that it's important to know that we need to go from a scab to a scar. A scab is a wound that is not yet healed, where the scar is where a wound once was, and it was a reminder of how to improve life going forward.
We sincerely hope you've enjoyed this episode with Lee Flach remember to get part one and part two in your step to peace be on addiction
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Peace Beyond Addiction Part 1 With Lee Flach
Today on the Journey Principles podcast, we have a walking, talking miracle with us, Lee Flach. He has been inspiring people all over with his story and has agreed to share it with you. His story is one of addiction.
Joseph Prielozny & Dirty Rice Show Notes
Faith + Music + Mission = Momentum
Grammy-award winning producers talk about what it’s like to live their life through their faith perspective and music. No production entity in Christian hip hop has achieved more in the past. Formed by Joseph Prielozny and Dirty Rice, COBRA collaborated with Lecrae on his September release, Anomaly to earn a Grammy Award for the song “Messengers” and another nomination for “All I Need Is You.” On Tuesday, the extended COBRA crew, which includes rapper KB and singer-songwriter Natalie Lauren, gave birth to Tomorrow We Live. Dirty Rice produced seven out of the album's 14 tracks with Prielozny, who also played the role of A&R with Lauren.
“I think [Prielozny] is the genius behind a lot of what has come out of Reach, and Dirty’s a beast,” KB said, “and when we come together, you might get struck by the COBRA.”
Tomorrow We Live has been purchased more on iTunes than any hip-hop album this week besides Love Story by Eminem-endorsed Yelawolf. Its success was predictable, considering that Reach Records has had 17 straight solo albums chart on the Billboard 200. Less predictable were the events that made COBRA — and Tomorrow We Live as it exists today — possible.
A New Leaf
Before Reach CEO Ben Washer wanted to sign Lecrae, he had his eye on another act — A New Leaf, an acoustic duo formed by Kurt Denmark and Prielozny, whose brother roomed in college with Washer. A New Leaf flew to New York to record its Reach debut, but the group ultimately never released any music.
“I just felt like I didn’t need to be in the spotlight,” Prielozny said.
Instead, Prielozny accepted a job in Nashville, Tennessee as an assistant to Grammy-nominated producer Shaun Shankel. Then in 2004, Washer sent Prielozny an album that captured his attention — Real Talk by Lecrae.
“Man, this Christian music is different from the Christian music I’m working on in Nashville,” Prielozny said.
Bored one night, Prielozny produced a rock remix of Real Talk and returned it to Washer. Lecrae loved it. This led to Amped, the rap-rock EP released in 2007 by the 116 Clique, and then an offer for Prielozny to join Reach as an on-staff producer. Listen to the show and learn how perseverance and not fearing failure can inspire the change you most desire out of life.
Ken Abraham show notes
In this episode we learn the power of a story. Everyone has a unique story that should be told in order for it to inspire someone else. We have the privilege of having Ken Abraham join us today. He is an author of over 80 books, 15 of which are on the New York Times Best Sellers’ list. When he was 8 years old, he started writing about other peoples’ stories because he also feels that everyone has a story to tell. He feels if you take the time to ask questions and listen, you will see doors open that you have never seen before.
Sometimes people feel that their story is so terrible that they don’t deserve forgiveness. That is not true. People need at least one person to show them the love of God and his grace. They need someone to say “God hasn’t given up on you and I am not giving up on you either.” As a matter of fact, Journey Principles is here for that reason. We all have fallen short at one point but we know that God isn’t done with us. God doesn’t give up on someone and we aren’t giving up either.
Other times people feel that they have hit “rock bottom” and can’t go any further. Ken Abraham points out that God allows us to come to that place where we have exhausted our efficiency and therefore we need to lean on Him. It is usually that place where real liberty and freedom begins.
Then there are people who have experienced both. They feel they have hit “rock bottom” and they can’t possibly be forgiven for the things that have caused them to hit that low. That is where God’s grace comes into play more than ever. Some people feel that they need to have a lot of faith in order to lean on God. The most amazing thing about God is that he never said we needed to have lots of faith to seek him. We just need to have genuine faith.
We are honored to have Ken Abraham tell us a little about his story. He shares with us about his parents and the struggles they faced as a family. He tells us about someone’s story that had an impact on him. He also shares with us an adversity in his life that he had to overcome; he felt that he could go no further. Listen with us today as Ken tells about God’s grace, what got him through that hard time and what gets him through every day.
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WELCOME TO THE DEBUT OF THE JOURNEY PRINCIPLES
It is our hope that the Journey Principles Podcast will help you grow and lead you toward the life you want with amazing guests, easy to apply practical principles, and personal motivation.
Stephen shares from his knowledge, his experiences, and most of all, his heart! He knows all about suffering and bears witness to how amazing life can be when we choose to take a stand and apply principles that matter. Many of these are the same principles that transcended him from being virtually homeless and ready to take his life to becoming a respected and successful business owner.
In a very transparent way, Stephen and his guests will walk you through the principles they have adopted into their lives and use daily. They will teach you how to transform from who you think you are today to becoming who you’re meant to be! It does not matter what kind of setbacks you have experienced so far. Stephen and his guests share from their personal, real-life journeys in order to empower you, the listener.
Stephen Scoggins is an entrepreneur, author, and inspiring professional speaker. He has dedicated his life to be a strong example of someone who has been at the bottom but has experienced joy in life. He was born and raised in a broken home, struggled through life until his late twenties, and was on the brink of suicide. He has developed a powerful program called "The Journey Principles" and will share what he has learned from his own story.
After a near attempt at ending his life, Stephen was guided by his personal beliefs and faith to develop a multimillion-dollar organization with strong values. Stephen soon became a top-selling author and speaker with a huge heart for helping others. He founded the Journey Principles Institute in 2015, and within months, JPI had made an impact all over the world. The Journey Principles team is dedicated to the relentless pursuit of serving others by helping them grow past their life's obstacles and allowing them to fulfill their true life-giving purpose and passion.
"This too shall pass, and what comes next will be greater." - Susan Batts
"Obstacles are not simply something that you go through, around, or over. When you truly confront and overcome an obstacle, it becomes a part of you and functions as a teaching tool. This too not only helps you define who you are as an individual, but also helps you perceive and take action in the world." - Stephen